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Hello, my name is Marvellem☕️. I’m bigender(female/male) I use any pronouns but mostly (she:her/he:him).
I was born female assigned at birth but I’m still not fully cisgender. I am queer 🏳️🌈
I have autism(moderate support needs) & adhd. yes I’m disabled. These can effect how i interact with people. I have boundaries and I would love them to be respected.
My interests: Michael Jackson, integrating Michael Jackson with distant discipline fileds & the color pink and anything pink,black cats, cats,academics,cartoons,fashion,Art & crafts,my little pony,horror,junji Ito collection,addms family(1964) ,cogntive functions/mbti,and other typolgoy systems.
My studies include: neuropsychology,typolgoy, literature,neuroscience.
I’m religious: I’m a satantist and aligin with Anton LaVey satanism ,a nonconformist one at that.
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•don’t assume things that aren’t true about me without asking my intent and weaponised my disability to make yourself feel better. I also would love if yall use tone tags/srs
• IF YOUR MEAN TO ME RESPECTFULLY FUCK OFF.
•do not pathologies everything: I do and say not everthing is explained by my disbalites some are though-and even if they are please don’t weaponized them and don’t use them to dismiss what I’m saying d don’t compare my fuentioing to another person and how 1 communicated jsut because I communicate efficiently at times doenst mean I don’t have high support needs.
•listening to my perspective on certain distinct discipline;don’t assume disagreeing with ignorance’s,don’t assume that I think your ignorant.
• don’t think you “understand “ my disability jsut to prove something to me, my wording can come off as very blunt and direct ;but it doesn’t mean I don’t have empathy, I share it differently then others - if I’m communicating something and it come across as very dismissive please be direct with me but don’t insult me or call me immature due to unconventional communication style.
•if I did something bad or an intent that wasn’t intentional and you tell me I’ll take accountablity for my actions but if you expect me to read the room knowing social cues can be ambiguous to me and don’t tell me, Ill probably wouldn’t pick up on them at all!! and can lead to mindersrsnding please tell me. Tone tags will always help.
• get very intense about my interests ;these are very apart of me and identity boundary, don’t take it personal that I think your inferior to me when I explain them in great detail and if it comes off this way again please be direct. Directness‡immature and defensive.
•please just respect me,I don’t care if your a high achiever if you think you can use your damn major to mentally change my mind into thinking your the best and”understand it well “ think again cuz I could care less—don’t disrespect me.
• “When I refer to traits” I am talking about my routine for special interests, showing, eating the same food..etc—mostly my phenomenological experience, not saying it’s exclusive to only one group. Maybe next time ask me before you assume things. My mind isn’t in an echo chamber, your observation of patterns aren’t correct.
Honestly even psychologist, neuroscientist, neuropsychologist, biologist and person in the field of medicine, specialized can also make mistakes and be wrong on somethings, being academically trained and disciplined through school doesn’t give you the right to talk down to other people and not be wrong about certain thing.. /srs
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A message to of emtions.
You misunderstood me badly. The words you use to anker me in a hurtful way.yoy said many times you don’t know me but you make assumptions and attack my motives and disability(if that’s what you were doing) just to make yourself feel like this conversations wasn’t bad on your side,,maybe both of us miscommunications badly. I don’t have cognitive rigidity and even if I do it’s very prevalent that autistic people experience that but it’s not the same as disagreeing or a disagreement. I don’t want you to weaponize my disability because you “understand it “ you have no right to do that. I’m not going to mask you or anyone in my life,masking isn’t always a bad issue at times ,but I feel like you see an unmasked autistic person on social media and posts things they’re into and then when it comes to them correcting you(without any insults or attacks) you shamed them. /srs
your right should be acknowledging my emotional pain emotionally not just intellectually—people have feelings that can be distressing and psychologically distressing. The words you choose to say hurted me deeply. You have every right to have an opinion but no right to treat me this way. How would you like it if I insulted your motives? It would be painful right? You may not care about if I say it or not but I know deep down most people care about what someone says. Don’t conform to social norms of “not caring what someone says” I don’t need you to tell me you don’t care I need you to understand words aren’t just something people use in everyday life it can have moral weight especially towards a person./srs
functioning labels can be problematic and some people with the older diagnostic criterion of Asperger’s syndrome still use those term which is understood in that’s since because change can be hard for (some ) autistic people cognitive inflexibility —meaning adapting to that change of a certain situation can be hard for that person, I don’t mine if you use them on yourself but don’t generalised a whole group and use those to categorized them & there many citations that can have dense explanations that can tell you about these terms and why they can be that way—when it comes to educating a person you don’t have to force them to agree but you can recommend them or advise them and try to make them understand why it can be this way even a lot of the autistic community at less the majority have claims about them “high functioning” is usually high-masking and clinically imprecise too do you understand why people use that terminology though?? Do you understand why it’s problematic ? since you’re a major in neuroscience and know everything !! ./srs
When ie as referring to “autistic people need routines” this is to broad I’m not sure if I posted about me or like autistic people as a whole (yes it’s a diagnostic trait of autism spectrum disorder,but it’s not exclusive to it ) a neurotypical person or even allistic person can have a routine and not be on the spectrum —when I was talking about that I was talking about my routine for special interests,showing ,eating the same food..etc) mostly my phenomenological experience not saying it’s exclusive to only autistic people yes the criterion for routines is backed up by category B3 “highly restarted interested and repetitive behaviors “ and routine can be one of this.Maybe next time ask me before you assume things. My mind isn’t in an echo chamber idk where you got that from but your observation of patterns aren’t correct!! I understand the difference between routines and behaviors that aren’t exclusive to autism. (That isn’t even something you should say to a disabled person,it just reinforces stereotypes that autistic people don’t care about another person’s opinion perspectives) /srs
yea ,I can see why I do apologize for that but when I was trying to converse with you and even online on my story I wasn’t they to make a claim that I’m very superior because I’m autistic or autistic people are superior then neurotypical people it’s because of the descriptive categories I aligning it with mostly towards brain wiring not because I’m trying to be above anyone!!! My phrasing can be very bad at times due to my neurobiological wiring but I also want to try to phrase it better by adding “some” majority ““maybe” those terms I don’t hate neurotypical people like you at all!!! yes not every neurotypical person is undiagnosed either —-there neurotypical doctor(s) as well I even had one I’m sure of it. My point to all of these is to ask before you assume things you don’t know about me./ih srs
You made it clear that you don’t know me personally but why are you making assumptions about my motives & character !! You can’t have honest communication but when it comes to me actually doing that and communicating because I don’t wanna make excuses you belittle me and discard what my point actually is. And I’m being honest with myself,if you want me to take it deeper I can. You want me to be as harsh as I can . It’s astonishing that I have to be nice all the time to people who don’t deserve it./srs
txto