If you plan on messaging me, here are some notes & boundaries.
General stuff:
- Not a fan of tone tags. I canāt wrap my head around the concept at all, I donāt know what they mean, and I canāt get āem all to stick, not with my awful memory. You can thank the DID for that one. Please donāt use them if weāre talking one-to-one. They frustate n confuse me thanks to my specific brand of autism. My tone is naturally flat, so ask me upfront if you canāt figure out whether or not something Iām saying is serious or not.
- Although Iām working on it, my empathy is low due to my diagnosis of ASPD & NPD, as well as autism. Iāll try to understand your perspective and I can give you advice/resources, but I wonāt have much for you in terms of touchy feely emotional stuff. I also get judgy as hell and can be a little bit harsh. If you canāt be upfront with me, donāt bother. Iām not a mind reader.
- It might take me a hot minute to message you back. Iām off doing shit in the woods, probably. I go totally dark sometimes. Itās part of my mysterious and avoidant je ne sais quoi.
- Iām a heavily repressed and sexually private eunuch, so explicitly sexual discussions with perfect strangers make me wince.
āKin and introject/āfictiveā spaces-specific:
- Iām probably not āyourā Sam. Iām not anyoneās Sam, Iām my own person. Sounds harsh, but I wanna put that boundary out there. I also donāt base my friendships / connections off of possible (pseudo/kin) memories, and I like doubles or whatever weāre calling them these days, so it just feels kinda rude and exclusionary to me. Basically, your princess is in another castle. TL;DR: Donāt assume weāre close when weāve only just met, and remember that Iām a person with my own autonomy behind the screen all the same as you are.
- Iām my own person with my own opinions and cognitive processes. If you expect me to be 1:1, all I can say is good luck, Chuck. Thatās your own fault for getting your hopes up and building up an idealized version of me that never existed. Iām a real person, treat me like one and weāll get along great. Yeah, Iām Sam. I get that. But with the way my belief system works, Iām not gonna act exactly the same 100% of the time and I donāt try to force myself to in order to fit some arbitrary āsource connectionā quota. Iām okay with who I am. Really.
- Other Sams are fine to interact. I donāt see yāall as a threat to my identity or whatever. Iām comfortable in who I am and as long as you are too, we can have a powwow. Or start a multilevel marketing scheme together, whatever floats your boat. I donāt see myself as the One Sam To Rule Them All and I think thatās bogus/immature and a major cognitive distortion.
- Iām withdrawn and I donāt trust easily. Furthermore, Iām pretty damn firm on my boundaries and blunt as all get out, so Iām an acquired taste (read: I might come across as sort of an asshole sometimes if youāre expecting more of the soft boy, fanon Sam type of person. Basically, yeah, Iām not a submissive puppyboy, sorry to those that this disappoints. Real sorry. Seriously.)
What I block for.
I donāt do DNIs, Iām taking this into my own hands because my boundaries up to me to enforce. I block a lot of people whenever I feel like it. Itās nothing personal, I just like to curate my space. Iām picky. If you somehow notice that I have you blocked, one of these is probably the reason.
- Iām pro-fiction/anti-harassment. I donāt care about or partake in that dumb ass shipping discourse cause Iām an adult and spiritually employed even if Iām on disability payments. That being said, I disagree with most (keyword: most) āanti-shippingā sentiments and find them any of the following: reductive, insincere as hell, immature and/or trifling. Iāll block you for this because I donāt want a dialogue about it, Iām not interested in arguing or discourse.
- I block minors when I see āem. I donāt wanna see the stuff you post and, more importantly, I donāt want you to see the stuff I post. I also find most teenagers irritating since Iām pushing 30.
- I block if you annoy me even if youāre an adult. If you spam tags I follow, Iāll block. If I see you as immature, Iāll block. Basically, if I catch a vibe I donāt really like or wanna deal with, Iām gonna block.
txto